Life is delicate and short, live it to the MAX!
Hello Dear Single Mommies!
I know I've been absent, it's been a crazy time yet again in my life, Charles my 2,5 year old mischievous sweet baby boy has been having issues with this foot and work has been slow but also cause I've been struggling with my own life situation.
I would love to report something fun, good or happy, but I've been quite down since the passing of my son's 34 year old loving and caring teacher Miss Alex Rodriguez. She came down with bronchitis, something I'm very familiar with having had chronic bronchitis for years, not that being a smoker ever helped, but apparently she got pneumonia and was hospitalized over President's Day Weekend, she then went into cardiac arrest and then a coma and finally was put on life support. I was livid, furious when I learned last week that she had died over the following weekend, the weekend when everyone was stressing about the Oscars and I was thinking the whole time I should stop by the hospital and visit her and see her face again. I mean the time I had visited her a few days after I was informed of her illness, she looked really well and her eyes followed me and she reacted to me coming into the room and the then the mean Filipino nurse Glenda, told my sister whom I dragged along as I knew from firsthand experience that you cannot bring flowers, balloons or children let alone an energetic 2 yr old going thru the terrible twos and threes, into the ER or ICU at any hospital, that: she was getting worse and corrected me by saying she was a" teacher's aide" and not a teacher I HATE hospitals, like I hate massive parking structures, just walking into them is enough to make anyone go insane.
All I can say is that poor Miss Alex was killed and the sad part of it is that even many of her fellow teachers mistreated her and her only family I heard from her co-workers that she confided in and stuff she'd tell me would take advantage of her. She used to take at least 5 buses to get to and from work, cause she lived in East LA and had to commute to the LAX area. It just really puts life into perspective when you realize how easy it is to kill someone once they are in the hands of health care professionals and a family that simply cannot be bothered or is quite honestly ignorant about their rights considering the barely spoke English and as much as I tried to give them a crash course instruction in the waiting room it wasn't enough to save Alex's life.
And so she dies, and the funeral comes around, I hate funerals, I've never understood the point of them, and the hypocrisy, like 90% of the people there were out of guilt. Poor Charles thought she was asleep, and I kept telling him yes, yes, Miss Alex is asleep, that's right, she is asleep in a better place and is asleep for ever now..." I mean the person is DEAD, I know the paying of respect thing, but come on, they are dead, do you really think they know now how much you actually care or loved them, they are GONE, Gone with the wind, the dust the sun the air the mysteries of life. Pay them respect in life by helping them, by showing them you care, by giving them even five minutes of your time, by living the moment no matter how stressed-out you are or how busy you are, just give them a tiny piece of your time or simply acknowledge their presence with a smile or hug. That's what Alex was to me and my son, and GOD knows I know how hard it is to find a god teacher, and that you are lucky to have one good one in your lifetime and consider yourself really fortunate if you have that. Alex loved my son as her own, she was their for him when I couldn't even when my dear but also quite reckless girlfriends picked her up, she would always ask Charles, do you know her? what is her name? and Charles wasn't even saying any words then, in order to make sure it was ok to pass him on to them. As a single parent you all know single mommies how hard it is to get a good caregiver and while we all know no one out there can replace you, at the very least you hope you don't leave your son with some physcho or an un- happy woman working insane hours at a job she hates when she has 3 or 4 kids of her own back home that can't even afford to go to the daycare where she works everyday and has 12 kids under her watch at any given time. She also understood my situation with the biological father of my son, as she had married badly and didn't have any kids though I'm sure she wanted them, but he was in Mexico cheating on her left and right, and she once told me, Nadia, it's his loss, el se lo pierde, mira este bebe tan hermoso y bien listo, el se lo pierde!" and it's so true, the only consolation I have at the end of the day is that I have Charles 24/7 and he doesn't and has made that choice, and while it has a whole load of challenges it is the best thing to cuddle up and smell his hair and kiss his perky sweet fresh milk lips at night and say to myself, Thank God I don't have to give some guy a blow job tonite
Miss Alex in purple with Charles to her right, camera left, purple was her favorite color and so were the flowers we sent and the rosary that I gave her that her family placed in her crossed hands while she was placed in her coffin. May she now rest in peace and live happily ever after with the sweet angels just life she was to us.
I'm also going to share a recipe:
"asparagus & squid or tri colore fruti di mare"
I know it sounds weird but it's really good very Mediterranean and also light.
Ingredients:
1lbs or 1/2 lbs of squid/octopus, depending on hoe many people eating, for two I just buy a $3.00 portion of squid at any Mitsuwa, they have great seafood and the portions are more " normal" size.
2 cubes of the frozen garlic and cilantro you get a Trader's Joes
1/2 of asparagus or half of a bundle
1/2 an orange or yellow bell pepper
Instructions:
In a frying pan or wok, pour some olive oil, once it's hot throw in the 2 cubes of garlic and then cilantro, stir it around so it doesn't get burnt, cut up the squid in small pieces and the asparagus as well as the bell pepper and toss in first the squid and then the asparagus and finally for the sweet taste the bell peppers.
You are done! you can serve it with some fresh baguette, but if you are trying to loose weight like myself just have some hot green tea with it.
ENJOY! and remember single mommies you are not alone!!!
I know I've been absent, it's been a crazy time yet again in my life, Charles my 2,5 year old mischievous sweet baby boy has been having issues with this foot and work has been slow but also cause I've been struggling with my own life situation.
I would love to report something fun, good or happy, but I've been quite down since the passing of my son's 34 year old loving and caring teacher Miss Alex Rodriguez. She came down with bronchitis, something I'm very familiar with having had chronic bronchitis for years, not that being a smoker ever helped, but apparently she got pneumonia and was hospitalized over President's Day Weekend, she then went into cardiac arrest and then a coma and finally was put on life support. I was livid, furious when I learned last week that she had died over the following weekend, the weekend when everyone was stressing about the Oscars and I was thinking the whole time I should stop by the hospital and visit her and see her face again. I mean the time I had visited her a few days after I was informed of her illness, she looked really well and her eyes followed me and she reacted to me coming into the room and the then the mean Filipino nurse Glenda, told my sister whom I dragged along as I knew from firsthand experience that you cannot bring flowers, balloons or children let alone an energetic 2 yr old going thru the terrible twos and threes, into the ER or ICU at any hospital, that: she was getting worse and corrected me by saying she was a" teacher's aide" and not a teacher I HATE hospitals, like I hate massive parking structures, just walking into them is enough to make anyone go insane.
All I can say is that poor Miss Alex was killed and the sad part of it is that even many of her fellow teachers mistreated her and her only family I heard from her co-workers that she confided in and stuff she'd tell me would take advantage of her. She used to take at least 5 buses to get to and from work, cause she lived in East LA and had to commute to the LAX area. It just really puts life into perspective when you realize how easy it is to kill someone once they are in the hands of health care professionals and a family that simply cannot be bothered or is quite honestly ignorant about their rights considering the barely spoke English and as much as I tried to give them a crash course instruction in the waiting room it wasn't enough to save Alex's life.
And so she dies, and the funeral comes around, I hate funerals, I've never understood the point of them, and the hypocrisy, like 90% of the people there were out of guilt. Poor Charles thought she was asleep, and I kept telling him yes, yes, Miss Alex is asleep, that's right, she is asleep in a better place and is asleep for ever now..." I mean the person is DEAD, I know the paying of respect thing, but come on, they are dead, do you really think they know now how much you actually care or loved them, they are GONE, Gone with the wind, the dust the sun the air the mysteries of life. Pay them respect in life by helping them, by showing them you care, by giving them even five minutes of your time, by living the moment no matter how stressed-out you are or how busy you are, just give them a tiny piece of your time or simply acknowledge their presence with a smile or hug. That's what Alex was to me and my son, and GOD knows I know how hard it is to find a god teacher, and that you are lucky to have one good one in your lifetime and consider yourself really fortunate if you have that. Alex loved my son as her own, she was their for him when I couldn't even when my dear but also quite reckless girlfriends picked her up, she would always ask Charles, do you know her? what is her name? and Charles wasn't even saying any words then, in order to make sure it was ok to pass him on to them. As a single parent you all know single mommies how hard it is to get a good caregiver and while we all know no one out there can replace you, at the very least you hope you don't leave your son with some physcho or an un- happy woman working insane hours at a job she hates when she has 3 or 4 kids of her own back home that can't even afford to go to the daycare where she works everyday and has 12 kids under her watch at any given time. She also understood my situation with the biological father of my son, as she had married badly and didn't have any kids though I'm sure she wanted them, but he was in Mexico cheating on her left and right, and she once told me, Nadia, it's his loss, el se lo pierde, mira este bebe tan hermoso y bien listo, el se lo pierde!" and it's so true, the only consolation I have at the end of the day is that I have Charles 24/7 and he doesn't and has made that choice, and while it has a whole load of challenges it is the best thing to cuddle up and smell his hair and kiss his perky sweet fresh milk lips at night and say to myself, Thank God I don't have to give some guy a blow job tonite
I'm also going to share a recipe:
"asparagus & squid or tri colore fruti di mare"
I know it sounds weird but it's really good very Mediterranean and also light.
Ingredients:
1lbs or 1/2 lbs of squid/octopus, depending on hoe many people eating, for two I just buy a $3.00 portion of squid at any Mitsuwa, they have great seafood and the portions are more " normal" size.
2 cubes of the frozen garlic and cilantro you get a Trader's Joes
1/2 of asparagus or half of a bundle
1/2 an orange or yellow bell pepper
Instructions:
In a frying pan or wok, pour some olive oil, once it's hot throw in the 2 cubes of garlic and then cilantro, stir it around so it doesn't get burnt, cut up the squid in small pieces and the asparagus as well as the bell pepper and toss in first the squid and then the asparagus and finally for the sweet taste the bell peppers.
You are done! you can serve it with some fresh baguette, but if you are trying to loose weight like myself just have some hot green tea with it.
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