My son's 2nd Teacher Report
So today my son had his second evaluation, and the "report" was not favorable. As a matter of fact most of it was negative and inaccurate and the few positive things were all items I already knew and he had developed in Stage II not III, what has he learned in Stage III? Nothing really I think other than to eat with his fingers and throw worse tantrums. Yes they make a lot of cute artwork and stuff for him to give me, but my son still does not speak, that is mainly my fault and for not filling my lives up with people so that I have a house full of people talking to him everyday in addition to myself. Therefore it seems to be that the teachers are trying to penalize me for dropping Charles off "late" and for disrupting their schedule. The whole point of this meeting was for me to bring up two major issues that my son has right now, the first being his increased and more intense temper tantrums, that have gotten worse from Stage II where he learned how to fall backwards and cry when he didn't want to do something or was told "no," and his eating issues that he continues to have. My son now weighs a little over 27lbs and he is over 34inches long, he is quite tall for his age, but rather skinny and he has struggled with anemia in the past and is a difficult and picky eater. So the second issue was for the teachers to supervise and make sure he eats, because he will normally refuse but then once he tastes it and sees that it is good he will then start eating and like a good LIBRA he will keep going and going and going until he cannot even stand up anymore cause his cute little belly-that he has never had-will be pouching. But until then you just have to be very patient and encouraging and just not give up.
My feeling is that they do not take the time to make sure they eat, and this is why he is ravishingly hungry when I pick him up around 6PM he will literally inhale his 8 oz bottle of whole milk and wolf down anything he can get his hands on that is normally from his lunch bag that is quite full or granola bars that I keep in the glove compartment of the car along with my power-protein bars.
Needless to say I left quite upset cause I was asked to drop him off earlier and explained that this would help improve his learning and verbal skills tremendously. I seriously do not see what an hour difference is going to make, other than them being able to kick back and have their donut and bagel with cream cheese and coffee at the very moment I walk in with Charles.
So my schedule is awkward, unpredictable, I'm self-employed, welcome to the lovely world of production on call 24/7 never have any vacation, all your clients know you have a 20 month baby and they still somehow call you at 7AM asking for something or wanting to follow-up on a board or submission, so all of these things are out of your control and if you postpone them even for an hour that could mean not having money and food for next month. I should not have to justify my profession. And and education is the single MOST IMPORTANT thing you can give a CHILD a Person which is why it is so vital to catch these things early and not wait till they are in high school or college to correct them with some class Ms. Edelman is teaching on Etiquette... My son also eats with his fingers at daycare whereas home he insists on taking away the spoon from me and showing me how well he can use it and how he almost always gets the food in his mouth. He also knows how to use a fork, and loves to teeth on plastic knives.
The worse part of the report was where they wrote: "He does not follow instructions very well." this really made me furious. Are you calling my son a moron? I mean what are you asking him to do, because my son is very talented he will be in gifted classes because he already shows signs of knowing how things work and he will take apart electrical appliances like all my Apple stuff and put them back together or drop a deck of cards and stack them back in the exact order- I am he is almost anal about his methods, but then after a few minutes he looses his patience and ruins whatever it was that he was doing sort of in his way erasing what he just did and starting fresh on a new project.
So for all you single mom's do not let yourself me intimidated especially when it's two against one and when they know they do not have to be embarrassed about a husband or partner being present when telling you things that you would never even tell your most obnoxious neighbor about their spoiled brat ill mannered kid. Speak-up for yourself and mainly your child and ask that they step-up to the plate as you are afterall paying for a service and they need to remember that.
Trust me I'm not mean, I take care of them, I bring them their Krispy Kreme donuts and brownies, gifts, appreciation cards, bath sponges in the shape of flower blossoms for crying out loud they care for THE MOST PRECIOUS thing in my LIFE and in the whole WORLD, but they cannot rely on the schedule and laziness and state regulations for getting away with not training these babies-toddlers properly with the basics of education. It all starts here and now. I'll keep you posted on how are meeting goes. I'm going to have a hard time going to sleep tonite. Sorry ladies I am not in the mood for making you laugh about all of this, as it really hurt and now I know better what it's like to be a parent. I just wish they could spend a day in my life as a single parent then perhaps they would be more forgiving and flexible and I'd love to see them handle a day on a film set as a Production Assistant, I'm sure that handling 10-12 kids with two other helpers is way easier than managing over grown adult babies who are essentially rude ego maniacs.
I guess my advice for the day would be to bring back-up when you go to these meetings alone, I know finding someone is hard as single parents, but even if you have to bring the dog it will help as emotional support. No one said it would be easy, but today I was hit really hard and where it hurts. One of the few positive things they said that was accurate was that: "Charles enjoys dancing to music and playing outside, playing in the sand and on the slide." This is all TRUE and I LOVE MY BABY SO MUCH!!! it just makes me mad when people don't understand him, cause he is an extremely smart and gifted sensitive little boy.
My feeling is that they do not take the time to make sure they eat, and this is why he is ravishingly hungry when I pick him up around 6PM he will literally inhale his 8 oz bottle of whole milk and wolf down anything he can get his hands on that is normally from his lunch bag that is quite full or granola bars that I keep in the glove compartment of the car along with my power-protein bars.
Needless to say I left quite upset cause I was asked to drop him off earlier and explained that this would help improve his learning and verbal skills tremendously. I seriously do not see what an hour difference is going to make, other than them being able to kick back and have their donut and bagel with cream cheese and coffee at the very moment I walk in with Charles.
So my schedule is awkward, unpredictable, I'm self-employed, welcome to the lovely world of production on call 24/7 never have any vacation, all your clients know you have a 20 month baby and they still somehow call you at 7AM asking for something or wanting to follow-up on a board or submission, so all of these things are out of your control and if you postpone them even for an hour that could mean not having money and food for next month. I should not have to justify my profession. And and education is the single MOST IMPORTANT thing you can give a CHILD a Person which is why it is so vital to catch these things early and not wait till they are in high school or college to correct them with some class Ms. Edelman is teaching on Etiquette... My son also eats with his fingers at daycare whereas home he insists on taking away the spoon from me and showing me how well he can use it and how he almost always gets the food in his mouth. He also knows how to use a fork, and loves to teeth on plastic knives.
The worse part of the report was where they wrote: "He does not follow instructions very well." this really made me furious. Are you calling my son a moron? I mean what are you asking him to do, because my son is very talented he will be in gifted classes because he already shows signs of knowing how things work and he will take apart electrical appliances like all my Apple stuff and put them back together or drop a deck of cards and stack them back in the exact order- I am he is almost anal about his methods, but then after a few minutes he looses his patience and ruins whatever it was that he was doing sort of in his way erasing what he just did and starting fresh on a new project.
So for all you single mom's do not let yourself me intimidated especially when it's two against one and when they know they do not have to be embarrassed about a husband or partner being present when telling you things that you would never even tell your most obnoxious neighbor about their spoiled brat ill mannered kid. Speak-up for yourself and mainly your child and ask that they step-up to the plate as you are afterall paying for a service and they need to remember that.
Trust me I'm not mean, I take care of them, I bring them their Krispy Kreme donuts and brownies, gifts, appreciation cards, bath sponges in the shape of flower blossoms for crying out loud they care for THE MOST PRECIOUS thing in my LIFE and in the whole WORLD, but they cannot rely on the schedule and laziness and state regulations for getting away with not training these babies-toddlers properly with the basics of education. It all starts here and now. I'll keep you posted on how are meeting goes. I'm going to have a hard time going to sleep tonite. Sorry ladies I am not in the mood for making you laugh about all of this, as it really hurt and now I know better what it's like to be a parent. I just wish they could spend a day in my life as a single parent then perhaps they would be more forgiving and flexible and I'd love to see them handle a day on a film set as a Production Assistant, I'm sure that handling 10-12 kids with two other helpers is way easier than managing over grown adult babies who are essentially rude ego maniacs.
I guess my advice for the day would be to bring back-up when you go to these meetings alone, I know finding someone is hard as single parents, but even if you have to bring the dog it will help as emotional support. No one said it would be easy, but today I was hit really hard and where it hurts. One of the few positive things they said that was accurate was that: "Charles enjoys dancing to music and playing outside, playing in the sand and on the slide." This is all TRUE and I LOVE MY BABY SO MUCH!!! it just makes me mad when people don't understand him, cause he is an extremely smart and gifted sensitive little boy.
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